Not Me! Second Edition

Welcome to Not Me! Monday! This blog carnival was created by MckMama. You can head over to her blog to read what she and everyone else have not been doing this week.

This week I did not:

Do absolutely nothing on Monday. That was someone else. I was the one folding laundry and cleaning her house. You must have looked into someone else’s windows. I would never consider days like that “vacations” in preparation for getting pregnant and having a child, which is seemingly imminent.

I also did not have a three year old vomit all over my house. She was very controlled and hit the bucket every time. I did not see this as “the ultimate test” for having children. I didn’t think I passed with flying colors.

I did not go wedding dress shopping just for the fun of it and find “THE DRESS.” It was not the cheapest dress I had tried on.  I am not that frugal. (See previous post)

I did not take a vacation from home starting today. I am not sitting in my college dorm room. I definitely have classes all week, there is no way I would be sitting in my dorm room on a Monday and not have a single class until Thursday night. That would be crazy! Wow, I am glad that isn’t me.

 

Worrying gets me..

Okay, so now that Ben (the fiancé) has given a definite YES! to try for a baby this fall, I am scared.

I am worried because I don’t want to have to have a J-O-B (40 hour a week job) anytime during my pregnancy or the baby’s first year. I figured out our finances and our monthly bills take half of our monthly income. I don’t think this is a horrible amount, especially when there will be a huge expense saved (my travelling 180 miles every week to and from school, plus all the frivolous spending I do when I am there ‘forgetting that I am a housewife as well as a college student’)

I think in the end it will all average out and we will be fine, but the worry is there, and I suppose that I would be more worried if I didn’t think of these things at all.

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I am so excited that I will be a full time housewife starting in May, it is crazy. 

Not Me!

Welcome to Not Me! Monday! This blog carnival was created by MckMama. You can head over to her blog to read what she and everyone else have not been doing this week.

It isn't me who is more excited to be planning a baby than to plan a wedding. Babies give you more memories, but the wedding will be the last time I get to look like a princess.

It definately wasn't me who some how talked her husband-to-be down from a two year wait to a one to two month wait to stop taking birth control. What kind of woman has that kind of power?

It also isn't me who is hoping to be able to have a homebirth when I do get pregnant, because that is crazy woman talk.

I definately also didn't forget my engagement ring on my way to school as week, and have to turn around 2o miles down the road to go home and get it. I would never forget to put it on after a long day of cleaning.

I am most definately not planning a wedding and a baby as a college student, who drives 196 miles round trip to college every week. 

I am not planning to "put a hold" on college until my life makes me happy. That is selfish and everyone should get a college education.

I most definately am not finishing my very first Not Me! post instead of cleaning my house, or doing my homework. It is Vacation! I would be on top of everything :)

And lastly-

It wasn't me who started a blog just to "fit in" and be able to do "Not Me! Monday." I started a blog to have a place to talk about the good things in my life too. :)

Love Conquers All

 The Inseminator and I have been talking about our future. We are getting married in August, have a house, and have been together for six years. We will both admit that not all of the six years have been happy, but there has definitely been more good than bad.
We started talking about "what next.."...you know, baby makes 3?..
It started as a discussion that lead to waiting until 2011. 
Then we started talking about the reason why we might want to wait that long. Which boiled down to freedom, responsibility, and cost. 
We talked about losing freedom, increased responsibilty, and the cost of a baby (not as much as I thought it would be). 
That lead to deciding to think about 2010 to start trying. 
Then Ben started asking his friends, family, and co-workers what they thought. Almost everyone he has talked to has been in complete support of us starting a family. They think we will make great parents. 
I talked to my friends and family, they think we will make great parents.

Then there was the one.. 
the one who thinks that we can't handle it
the one who made around $40,000 last year but could barely afford their child
the one who thinks that there is no way we are ready.
the one who thinks that us having a child would change our lifes so drastically that we wouldn't be able to handle it

and this is what I have to say to that:
--I am absolutely positive we can handle it.- We have been through more together in the past 6 years than most people I know, we are completely honest with each other...we have talked about the "what ifs" and the "but whens." It's about as planned as the unknown can be.
-- Money isn't everything, and it doesn't buy happiness and love. Our baby may not have THE BEST of everything, but it will always be loved by both of its parents, it will always be paid attention to, it may have the least materialistic upbringing possible, but love conquers all.
--We are as ready as two people can be without winning the powerball. We are emotionally, physically, and mentally ready for anything. Again, we have talked about it, we know the risks, the benefits, etc. We may lack the money needed to buy a $3,000 swing set, but isn't a tire swing in a tree much more fun?
-- Anything you do changes your life. I went to college and it changed our lives, we moved in together and it changed our lives, we are getting married and that will change our lives too. A baby is step you take when you are ready to make the commitment. It is something you do knowing that the outcome is 18 years of commitment to raising an amazing human being. We know these things, we are ready for changes.

So in the end, get over it, our decision will be made based on how we feel inside, its nice to know that you think we will fail as parents, but we will provided a loving home for a child, it may not have top of the line toys, but it will have support,and comfort.

Suck it up.